"He would have been embarrassed to hear it said, but I think Ross was among the chosen, and I think that on some level he himself knew this (though at the same time the idea of "being chosen" would have seemed impossibly romantic, or "poetic" to him). He intimates something of all this in "A Dark Plum":
A silence which settles the night
It is not the absence of the yellow
in one’s bright eyes but
a slight cooling in the head, sealing
love to the sharp darkness.
Out of that black, my name comes sailing
in at me, chiffon and in
someone else’s voice, a
soft pin put to me directly. "Ross"
it says off the night. The voice says "Ross"
like Hamlet’s father. It falls from
At night you learn that you can’t talk
to yourself but only to Hamlet,
to his father, to a cliff.